LIFE LESSONS FROM CLOSING A LIFE CHAPTER
LESSON # 1 – LIFE LESSONS FROM CLOSING A LIFE CHAPTER:
Scars exist for a reason – even though healing takes place, there will be reminders of past hurts. Scars are not ugly – rather, they are like badges of courageous survival, & reminders not to engage in whatever behavior or relationship caused the original wound. Scar tissue is always stronger than the original tissue that it replaces, & this is a means to protect us from experiencing the same pain again. Scars exist for a reason – realize that they are there & that you are stronger for having them, but leave them alone, because life throws us too many hurts daily to continue to re-live the same ones over & over again.
LESSON # 2 – LIFE LESSONS FROM CLOSING A LIFE CHAPTER:
Betrayal is a fact of life, & one cannot control whether or not another individual will betray their trust. No matter the degree of betrayal, or the depth of the relationship between the two people, betrayal is always traumatic to the person that has been betrayed. One must learn not to accept fault for being betrayed – the only person at fault is the betrayer. This will not minimize the effect of feeling betrayed, but it will free you from the guilt associated by the false belief that there is something that you could have done to prevent it.
LESSON # 3 – LIFE LESSONS FROM CLOSING A LIFE CHAPTER
One event in life does not have to forever define you. Life is like a photo album, filled with snapshots from the beginning to the end of a person’s life. One cannot remove the fact that the snapshots have been taken – the memories of them will stay with you always. But you CAN, as you progress, get better & clearer pictures of life events as they happen, learn a better way to save & categorize them, & realize that one moment in time does not define an entire life. One small snapshot does not have to define you. Just keep on taking more pictures, & eventually a beautiful portrait will emerge.
LESSON # 4 – LIFE LESSONS FROM CLOSING A LIFE CHAPTER:
Not every character in the book that is your life is supposed to belong in each & every chapter of your life – it is all right to leave some characters behind when you turn the page. People add value to our lives, & God places them in our lives at unexpected places & times. Even though you may grow attached to particular people, when their part in the plot of your life has ended, you must let them go, for to try to continue to drag them along when they are not supposed to be there will only cause your story to become confused & chaotic.
LESSON # 5 – LIFE LESSONS FROM CLOSING A LIFE CHAPTER:
Pain hurts, & one cannot stop hurting until one manages to withdraw from or remove the stimuli that is causing the hurt. Continuing to live with people & things that continually hurt you will only allow you to receive more damage. Sometimes it is difficult to pinpoint the cause of pain, but once you have done so, the only prudent recourse is to take steps to remove it. Just as one would never continue to keep one’s hand in a roaring fire, one should never keep oneself in the middle of figurative fires. Whatever is causing you great pain does not belong in the next chapter of your life.
LESSON # 6 – LIFE LESSONS FROM CLOSING A LIFE CHAPTER:
Life is filled with surprises, & the best way to deal with them is to recognize that people & things seldom fit into preconceived little boxes, but that they will often surprise you. The very best novels have surprises at the end of the chapters – some surprises are good, & some are not so good, but they keep life interesting. Recognizing that things are often different than you would desire, wish, hope, or think will help keep you from getting distressed when you realize that they were not what they seemed.
LESSON # 7 – LIFE LESSONS FROM CLOSING A LIFE CHAPTER:
If you try to skip ahead in the book of life, you may be missing out on something crucial. There are no real shortcuts in life, & sometimes you just have to endure whatever trial it is that you find yourself in the chapter you are trying to avoid. Regardless as to how badly you want to move ahead to the next chapter, if you do not read what has been written for you in the current chapter, you may miss out on clues that are crucial to the proper development of your life’s story.
LESSON # 8 – LIFE LESSONS FROM CLOSING A LIFE CHAPTER:
In the end, the only voice that matters in the story of your life is your own voice. Many well meaning people will try to tell you what to do, but they are not supposed to be the main characters of your book – they have their own stories to live. It is good to listen to wise counsel, but listen to what God places on your own heart, because no two hearts are the same, & no one knows your heart like you do. Listen to your heart, then give it a voice in the book of your life. Without heart, a story will be dull, boring, & unappealing.
You are the main character in your book, no one else.
LESSON # 9 – LIFE LESSONS FROM CLOSING A LIFE CHAPTER:
The stronger that you think you are, the weaker God will allow you to become, in order that you may experience humility & humanity. If you are never down & out, never depressed, & never dependent upon anyone or anything, then your story will not strike a chord with anyone. However, if you rise up from pieces broken by suffering, then people will be interested to see what that is all about, & the telling of & reading of that story will inspire, motivate, & encourage someone else who is struggling with closing a chapter of their own.
LESSON # 10 – LIFE LESSONS FROM CLOSING A LIFE CHAPTER:
Each new chapter holds the promise of being the definitive one that will make the difference in your life, but you cannot know, at the beginning of the chapter, whether or not it is the one. The only way to really know how your story is supposed to unfold is to take it one day, one chapter, one page, & one line at a time. After all, sometimes surprise endings are the best of all.